One of the main ways I enter into the self-awareness process is by asking questions.
Hard even troubling questions.
Below the water line questions.
Ask these questions and then push, pursue to find answers. The first answers are not your destination. First answers are really the real answers. They are only the beginning.
Asking questions that take you below the water line is a little like a National Treasure movie, or the Da Vinci Code. One clue just leads you further along the path… to the next clue… and then the next one. There is treasure at the end, but it is a ways off. The clues/answers along the way are the guides/pointers to the answer you seek.
But it starts with good questions.
Here are questions that have to do with "resistance" on our part. Whenever I find myself resisting something, that is a sure sign that something is hiding and it needs exposed and explored.
I came across some of these good, "resistance processing" questions in Caring for Word in a Culture of Lies (page 60). I've added them to my long list of self-awareness questions. Here they are:
What am I avoiding knowing? Why?
(I never thought of it that way, but it is a good way to think.)
What point of view am I protecting? Why?
(hmmm… getting at my biases and assumptions that I take for granted… what is that la about, what purpose does that point of view serve?)
How have I arrived at my assumptions about what sources of information I will rely on?
(I can hardly tell you how important this question is and it is one I almost never ask. But it is important. We all have sources that inform us. Why those sources and what do we believe about those sources, vs. other sources?)
How much evidence do I need to be convinced?
(Another great question - wow? It reminded me of Jesus' challenge/accusation against the Pharisees of his day.)
Leaders, not only are these questions you can use for your own journey, but when you are working with other leaders and you discern resistance from them, use these questions in mentoring sessions to help them move into new levels of awareness.
Brian K. Rice Leadership ConneXtions International www.lci.typepad.com