. . . but unlike so many people, there are only a few and I rarely think of them.
Don't get me wrong.
REGRET is a powerful and necessary interior affection that must lead to the appropriate responses. General Petraeus and Paul Broadwell should (and seem to have) deep regret about their affair.
I am, however, sometimes surprised at the deep "lingering" regrets people have and the terrible sadness and self-recriminations they hold on to. In a recent conversation, the person with whom I was speaking was in major pain about poor choices (many years ago), and the repercussions of those choices. He said, "I often wish I could do this over again."
I talk with leaders who have REGRETS about
- lost opportunities
- missed opportunities
- time wasted
- relationships broken
- conversations that should have been - but weren't
- choices (bad ones)
- the good that could have been but wasn't
- the bad that shouldn't have been - but was
- what would you add to this list.
Our world is filled with should've, could've, would've . . . and so we live with regrets.
If only I had done ___________ (fill in the blank) . . . and since we didn't we have regrets.
Regret serves only one or two redemptive purposes.
One - to remind us of the daily and necessary e, fresh starts, second chances and new beginning that we have.
Two - to creat perspective, insight and motivation for optimum living today and tomorrow.
However, regret also can have a destructive purpose... if it lingers, occupies, distracts, holds back, limits, paralyzes, consumes and causes you to live focused on past wrong choices and then pessimism about today and tomorrow.
What regrets do you have?
How are these regrets holding you back?
What is Christ asking you to do about these regrets?
What regrets about the past, must you let go of so you can reach out to the future that is offered to you?
Brian K. Rice
Leadership ConneXtions International